“I think our stories are kind of similar – where we got pushed into STEM, because that was seen as a practical career. And really, when I wanted to professionalize, I wanted to make the Muppets. That’s what I wanted to do when I was little. And then I got pushed into other things for a while. So learning to sew as an adult and coming back to it and doing things with my hands again was satisfying, in a way that my seven year old self knew. That my ten year old self was pushed out of.”
The problem with the whole pickle is – like I shared last Tuesday – if you grow up hearing enough of this stuff it can really affect you. I’m forty-five now and I am still painfully peeling off layers of self-doubt and confusion. I’ve been known to seek validation in the wrong places.
“You have had such a huge influence on the way that I think about my business: the questions that I ask myself about my business, my confidence in being able to run my business. I’ve learned so, so much from you, I’ve learned so much about how to communicate my marketing and what marketing looks like for an ethical business. And then it’s not the evil bullshit that I learned in Business College – which was just horrible.”
”You run a little entrepreneurship. And if you’re trying to make money, you have all these pressures. And if you’re *not* trying to make a lot of money you still feel like you’re supposed to gain.”
“I needed some confidence in how to better communicate with clients. I wanted to feel comfortable about stating my No’s and my boundaries and kind – figuring out where those boundaries were. I felt like, “It’s business, we have to take it al!” So that was definitely something that I had heard from Sabel and Hudson that I you would be able to help me with that. That was definitely like one of my bigger things I wanted to learn from you.”
“Smart” isn’t quite the problem per se, it’s our cultural valuation of “smart” at the expense of the “not-smart”. Even at six it was obvious I’d done something very pleasing to the grownups in my life, so I went on to prove I was Smart for a chill K-through-12 years. I received straight A’s, I participated in math and science contests, I beat the running year-long trivia game in fifth grade (record holder still, I believe), and assembled a few plaques and medals. Upon graduating high school I received a full ride scholarship in Engineering and got the Engineering degree. See – I’m Smart! People tell me so.
I want my work to fall into just the right hands!